What i know is each of my friend who believes them self to be in love go through great emotional upheavals & are more unhappy rather than ecstatic & happy :( Here the question always comes in mind why this happens?
For today's generation they can keep love asides their love life to focus on studies career, to them romance n love r the part of life are the part of life for them if the love & relationship doesn't workout ,they are perfectly capable to getting up ,dusting their palm & walking on the new way............
More important is expectation that we have from relationship, when in love we focuses all energy & attention on the loved one we successfully suffocate the relationship slowly but surely .Must LOVE be such encompassing emotion? Must it means owning each others every single aspect? The days of such kind of love are over…….Today take what you care for & make most beautiful time & avoid digging deep into rest, Once you know you can’t have everything, you give up the quest & settle down to enjoy what you do haveJ
Most of the time LOVE has been self destructive moth flame analogy, why can’t LOVE be nurturing as oxygen to love, rain on desert land, like warmth of blazing flame on frozen feet ,anticipation @the beginning of great holiday or good book read or good movie seen!
I can say why to destroy all these pleasure in hope of exclusive, unreal &everlasting LOVE? In quest of biggest unproven pleasure, why become possessive & suffocated your relationship? The mistake we make that we try to fulfill our self and innate loneliness in our innermost through this love relationship, shear impossibilities, We use it as window through which we expect to fulfill all our dreams and expectations, The point is that if we put all our burden of expectation on the relationship it would be far like we bound to smother it .
It would be far better to celebrate whatever we do get! So what if she/he can’t give you all her /his LOVE………..The point is can you do without what you get? So what if you are completely different people whose views on most worldly matter don’t match? You can think about where they match ……………..
In sea chaos ,If one persons company actually help you to give some moments of calm a& happiness ,does it really matter if he or she is not wholly & truly devoted to you .If relationship & interaction energies you to deal with rest of life ,why not focus on just that and let the rest of life remain undisturbed ?
Rather than allow LOVE to take over your life as deeply emotional & disturbingly intense entity Limit the intensity to little time you spend together & use the resultant energy to fuel your rest of life & you will find that there is lots more happiness & fulfillment to be found on life than LOVE alone .
Nobody today can own 100% allegiance to you or your concern, LOVE rather than wholesome commitment can have piecemeal but it can surely help you to empower the rest of life and help empower you to live more intensely .If you can LOVE like that you will not have too far fulfillment!!!!!!!!!!!
